Let go!

You know what the hardest thing is?

It is when you realize that you have to let go of something or someone that you always thought you wanted, because you know deep down in the end it won’t be beneficial, or that in my case it won’t ever work out.

When you finally figured out that the person you really wanted never actually wanted you. Or maybe the career you always thought you’d have, isn’t the career choice that is right for you.

And the hardest thing about all that is letting go, or learning when to let go.

I had to learn the hard way…

It took me a while to wrap my head around the fact that the guy that I wanted didn’t actually want me. And how I discovered that was when I went over in my mind how that guy made me feel.

(The way a person makes you feel speaks volumes!)

Let me explain what I mean… I had a MAJOR crush on one of my past coworkers and this guy was CAPITAL H. O. T. HOT! And for some time I noticed that we would always glance quickly at one another but neither of us actually made a move.

So, “I”decided that I was tired of just standing around waiting on him to come to me, I figured maybe he is shy..who knows?

So, I made an effort to say hello and I tried to have a decent conversation, nothing major. After a while I noticed that even though I would make every effort to say hello to him, that action was never reciprocated… I noticed that my other female coworkers would flirt with him and at first he never showed in possible interest , but then I noticed he would compliment them on how amazing they looked. I didn’t let that bother me, I figured it was just a compliment, it couldn’t possibly mean anything.

Well I waited six months for this guy to see if he would show ANY interest in me and he never did. I even prayed about it, asking God for direction.

I started to go over his interactions with me in my head…

1. He NEVER approached me…
2. He NEVER Tried to have a decent conversations with me…
3. He NEVER complimented me…
4. He would flirt with other girls in front of me…

I couldn’t remember anything that he ever did that showed his interest in me…what was it that made me think that he was interested in me? Because he glanced at me once??

So for six months I waited for a guy to approach me, who never planned to come in my direction…. I wanted so badly for this guy to be it, but really this guy wasn’t trying to be anything but a good employee.

I then had to let go of the idea of him. I had to let go of the thoughts that him and I could be a wonderful couple. I had to let go of the thoughts that he was just shy, and that he was taking his time.

I let my heart get so attached to a person all because of a look.

The Bible knows what it is talking about when it tells us to guard our hearts! The Bible knows what it’s talking about when it says do not be unequally yoked and the Bible knows what it is talking about when it defines true Love!

• «Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.»Proverbs 4:23 KJV

• «Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?»2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV

Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.»1 Corinthians 13:5-8 KJV

It was difficult for me to let the thought of having him as my man go, because in my head I planned out all of our future dates and everything else! I thought he was just shy, and thought ñ that was the reason why he took so long…. but truth be told, he only took long, because he never planned to come.

Everyone’s situation with letting go is different…

But don’t fall victim…

Just guard your heart, and let God guide you!

Be Blessed, be BOLD, and don’t forget that you are Fearfully and Wonderfully made!